my advice comes from knowledge of unkown origin. But try and take both of your parents advice, be sure not to get under eachothers feet, listen to eachother, try to split things like costs equally, and these things are furthered even more if you have/will have a child in the future.
Just be sure to not leave your comfort zone, or take her out of hers.
As for the actual wedding day, don't get drunk cus she wont like that, and just make sure to be polite to her family (im sure you are anyway)
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